51 years of life experience, and 31 years defying the odds: To hear the first part of my life's journey: Diagnosis of death at age fifteen, advocating for myself, and stepping into the world to find me, go to Bio Page and listen to both podcasts
As far back as I can remember I have felt a deep connection with fellow Humans, and a passion to advocate and help.
For example: My parent's told me of an experience when I was age six in which I would not eat until my father fed two homeless humans who were sitting near our trailer while we were camping.
I believe Identifying thoughts, behaviors, humans, and environments that are unhealthy for us, which prevent us from personal growth is not comfortable or easy. However, it is exactly what needs to be done in order to find our own 'Truth' and embrace 'Authentic Self'.
As I have grown and matured I have come to understand that we have to want a healthy journey for ourselves, and no one can love us healthy, want it for us, or do it for us.
Hear, believe, trust, and evolve; while exhaling the fear and conditioned programming.
"The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are."
~ C.G. Jung
"Discouragement is simply the despair of wounded self-love."
~ Francois de Fenelon
FEAR: Friends will judge me
FEAR: Parents won't love me
FEAR: I'll be considered a failure
FEAR: Hateful projection from everyone
FEAR: Everyone may think I am an unloving and bad parent
FEAR: My partner will take our separation out on our child/children
FEAR: When I'm gone who is going to be influencing my child/children
Are the humans surrounding you, and the environment you are within fueling the "Wounded Self" by keeping you in fear, chaos, doubt, and conditioned behavior?
"Remind Yourself That You Cannot Fail At Being Yourself"
FACT: This is not healthy
FACT: I am worthy of love
FACT: I embrace my passion to succeed
FACT: I surround myself with humans who empower me
FACT: Remaining is an unhealthy example for our child/children
FACT: It is not my responsibility to own or prevent others reactions
FACT: I cannot control everything, but I can be a healthy example
Are the humans surrounding you, and the environment you are within empowering you to embrace your "Truth" and "Authentic Self" while encouraging you to integrate the wounded self?
EACH OF US AQUIRE WOUNDS ALONG LIFE'S JOURNEY. THE ISSUE[S] CREATED MAY HAVE COME FROM: PARENTS, FAMILY, FRIENDS, INTIMATE RELATIONS, AND/OR SOCIETY.
THE ASPIRATION IS TO "NOT" ALLOW IT TO MAKE US JADED, BUT TO HELP US IDENTIFY HEALTHY vs UNHEALTHY. TO LEARN, GROW, AND LET GO AND MOVE AWAY FROM THE UNHEALTHY TO MOVE TOWARD OUR "TRUTH" AND AUTHTNEITC SELF.
MOVING AWAY FROM HUMANS AND ENVIRONMENTS THAT ARE "NOT" HEALTHY/GOOD FOR US, IS OKAY, BENEFICIAL, AND RECOMMENDED.
This Is Your Journey:
Choose to continue serving and feeding the wounded self, or shut down the fears of the wounded self by acknowledging, integrating, and changing them instead. Through acknowledgment and integration one will be able to empower himself/herself [Self] to explore, learn, and discover their subjective truth, which will illuminate the spectrum of Authentic Self.
Who Are You? What Do You Want?
This will be unveiled as one integrates the wounded self, and embraces ones Authentic Self. Additionally, this is subject to change. The answers to those two questions will change as one grows, and as one Self Actualizes.
"You Don't Know Until You Know, Once You Know, Change It." ~ Mimi
No one can walk your path for you, or help, love, enlighten, or become unhealthy enough with you to create change for you. Nor is it anyone else's responsibility to want or make you grow. It is each individual's choice to remain as is, or walk through the fear, and embrace ones Truth and Authentic Self.
Who You Surround Yourself With, and What You Surround Yourself With, You Will Become.
A very important part to ask yourself is: Who are you surrounding yourself with? What is surrounding you within your environment? [some refer this to be: Law of attraction]
Are the people you are surrounding yourself with fueling the fears of the wounded self, and keeping you in chaos, doubt, fear, conditioned behavior? Or, are the people you are surrounding yourself with empowering you to find and embrace your Truth and Authentic Self, while helping you to identify the wounds from your journey so you may integrate and heal?
The Answers Are Within:
I believe we are all born with the tools and guidance within us for our own journey. Yet, through conditioning and projected parental, ancestral, cultural, and societal fears we are taught not to "Hear" the innate inner guidance.
Only You Are The Expert For Your Own Journey. May You Embrace The Courage To Truly Look At Your Life, and Change Everything That Is Unhealthy and Restricting You From Growth.
GOLDEN RULE: NO HARM TO SELF OR OTHER.
“The more you’re in touch with who you are, the more your internal chatter will decrease and you will develop more clarity. As the deepest parts of your being rise to the surface, you will notice a state of peace and calmness in your soul. The longest journey you’ll ever take is the one where you need to find yourself.” ~Consciousness
To speak or write for those who do not feel empowered or safe enough to do so for themselves.
Writer of a book, article, or literature. Works: Advocate, Awareness, Entertainment, Fundraising, Social Issues, and Self Help.
Insight about who I am, snap shot of life experience, and educational background
List of books I and others find interesting to inspire as one walks their life's journey. Remember: take what resonates, and toss what does not work for you. This is your journey.
Speak and present on different subjects: Community, Conventions, Law Enforcement, Medical Professionals, Men's Groups, Youth.
Much Gratitude: Thank you to everyone who wrote a testimony. I feel blessed that you choose to call me friend, and honored that you trust me to be a part of your life's journey. Thank you also for the co-creation, teamwork, and mutual human respect. Empowering energy to all.
I'm truly grateful for the journey I have been given thus far. I feel as if I've lived five lifetimes in one, with more to come.
Upon reflection I realize that every step I have taken, and every choice I have made, has empowered me toward my Truth and Authentic Self. I also realize that Not making a choice is still choosing, and it surrenders Free Will to others to direct and navigate my path.
The spectrum of my journey has consisted of many challenges and bumps as well as beautiful and magical moments. There have been so many experiences, and lessons learned along the way. Some that family, friends, and society may consider wrong and judge, and some that allowed me to embrace the beauty of love, life, and expansion.
All I see as a gift and blessing.
I do not feel shame, guilt, or feel less than for any experience along my path. I fully own all my choices, and I am grateful for each one regardless of how difficult or joyful because they helped me expand in ways I never even thought possible.
With each step I have taken it has helped me focus my sense of Self, understand what I want and don't want [Healthy vs Unhealthy], and allowed me to embrace the Woman [Feminine Energy] and Authentic Self I am today.
As for relationships: I honor and respect the few men [Masculine Energy] I have been with. Without the experiences with each of them, I would not be me. I fully own my part of each co-creation by embracing the expansion, learning the lessons, making the changes, and holding the beauty shared from each experience. I wish each of them all the beauty that life has to offer. I'm very happy to say each of them have chosen to remain my friend, and keep in contact over the years.
I think my process of integrating the wounded self began in my early twenties when I had a very vivid dream. Within My Dream:
I was standing in an empty, low quality lit room. In fact, the corners of the room were blacked out. While standing alone, gazing into the darkness of the room, I heard a noise coming from the corner. I gently said, "Who's there, please come out." The small child like figure stepped forward toward me, yet remained near the darkness. I walked over to the child, and as I knelt down to say, "Hello," I looked into the little girl's eyes, and realized it was me at seven years old. At that moment, as an adult, I hugged the child within, then looked myself in the eyes to say, "Don't be afraid, I will take care of you from now on."
That dream was a pivotal moment for me. When I woke, I realized I needed to begin really looking at everything that had affected me along my journey, and remain mindful of everything to come that may affect me so to integrate and process as I go.
Everyone has their own path, and will need to decide for themselves how that may or may not unfold. No judgment, no projections, no guilt, no induced fear should ever be thrown or accepted, to or from anyone regarding another journey.
[ what is life, advocate, author, and speaker]